It has been my observation recently, that in today’s society everybody is perhaps a little too eager to give negative feedback, and perhaps a little too reluctant to give positive feedback. I am one of the principle perpetrators of this problem, so I don’t wish to claim any moral authority on the matter, but I know that I am not alone, because I receive my fair share of negative feedback.
We all have no problem noticing and then pointing out when someone else makes a mistake. So when I was attending a seminar put on by LIFE Leadership, and the following came to my mind in the middle of an extremely inspiring talk, I wrote it down.
The Qualifications to give negative feedback:
You only really help someone by pointing out flaws, errors, character flaws, etc. when the following conditions are all met:
- You have their permission to point it out … AND…
- You are ready, willing, and able to help them work on fixing the defect in question … AND…
- You are either:
- Free from the defect in question … OR …
- You meet all three of the following:
- You are being coached and/or mentored by someone with demonstrable evidence of overcoming the defect in question
- You are actively working on overcoming the defect in question
- They are aware of both of these.